Best Forum to hear experienced audiophiles exchange thoughts?

Money and toys and egos seldom make good omelet

And then someone thought an engineer brain would improve the taste. 

that comment wasn't worth reading once, much less 4 times

People with experience and knowledge tend to write in a way that exhibits that. I've started many threads here, and when my OP was carefully worded, the responses would typically lead to a coherent and informative exchange of views. This does not always happen but it frequently does. Check my threads to see what I mean.

The other thing an OP can do is to steer conversations back on track by restating the question or by summarizing what's been said that answers it. 

In other words, a good thread takes work and some minding by the OP. When people throw a vague question out there and then find they're in the middle of a food fight, that's not totally their fault but there's some need for additional due diligence.

i just don't believe at that site , too many paid faker

If you want to talk about mostly HE and New gear, I would suggest AudioShark.org run by the owner of Suncoast Audio in Sarasota.