@erik_squires , The only way eric that you can do what I have been talking about is with digital signal processing. The reason you have to have independent control over both high and low pass filters both 3 or 6 dB down points and slopes is because after matching time and phase the game is keeping the subwoofers out of the midrange and relieving the main speakers of as much bass as possible, two conflicting issues. Using digital signal processing to "room control" the subwoofers wastes a lot of power and stresses the drivers. It is better to use a cleverly designed room and subwoofer array to keep nodes to a minimum and use dsp sparingly.
I am going to be Beta testing DEQX's new Pre 8 preamplifier shortly. Read up on it. It is quite a unit.
Measuring your system is always a great idea if you really want to see where your problems are. I evaluated a friends system yesterday after installing his new Clearaudio Charisma. He has a small but very nice situation in the lower level of his condo. His system has minimal distortion but he complains of not being able to tolerate louder levels and he lacks refined imaging. His problems were laid bare on the computer. His system was +5 dB at 10 kHz and the left and right channels had very different curves throughout the midrange. The high frequency boost is the reason he can't listen at louder levels and the variation between the channels is killing his image. He also uses two subwoofers with low pass filters only. After seeing his issues on the computer he is ordering a MiniDSP SHD preamplifier with which we can conquer these issues and more.