Can you have too much speaker presence?

FWIW when I have seen the word 'presence' it has been referring to the mid/upper mid range. I agree with Soix. But I would opine that your dealer was telling you these speakers would just be too small in your large (enuf) room, something you could cure with good well set up sub woofers. Another WAG though. :-)

You can have speakers that are too large for your venue. You can overload bass and end up having to do all sorts of elaborate treatments to make them sound right.

In the other end of the spectrum you can have tiny speakers and a sub and really loose the scale. 
 

While I never heard of the term speaker presence… I get the gist. Sure. 

Will the dealer allow you to take both the smaller and the larger speakers home and judge for yourself?

Your current speakers must be a pretty high hurdle for any speaker to surpass.

That’s not true a great stand mount have better imaging and excellent soundstaging and depth, just add a quality powered sub .

look at the MBL 126a world class monitor that's also omni directional and excellent off axis . I don’t know how good your electronics are, or front end this too 

has a lot to do with the final outcome , your dac  can be just as important 

as your speakers since all music starts at your front end turntable included.

Presence, being there. I'm all in. Started with 43" tall towers in my house of stereo and moved up to 69" tall towers and I have more presence :)