i think you had made good observations cundare2.....
Eq. is a tool , a means used for an acoustic problem but not the solution but only an element of it at best ...
For example i used Eq. for my headphone to push them nearer the Harman curve but without my other modifications this will be useless ...EQ. cannot replace material acoustics...If it is not a cherry on a cake , we mistake the cherry for the cake ...
Also EQ. work with precise frequencies window, unlike other tool which work on all the wall of sound at once ...I use low cost small battery Shumann generators , cheap one , located at specific points and they work amazingly well to made more organic all the soundfield ... Why ? i dont know ...😊
Welcome to you by the way ...