A'gon transactions: When is it legit to quit?


Need some help here. I posted an ad for a speaker and rec'd a response from a A'gon member indicating he definitely wanted to buy. Despite that I indicated I wouldn't ship, he said he'd have a box sent from the mfr and I agreed to ship if he bore the risk of loss and paid for shipping.

After extended back and forth (initial contact was on 3/13), he indicated on 3/22 he sent a check and ordered the box. I emailed him Tues. (4/2) and noted that I had received neither and asking if he might have sent it late or whatever, and sought confirmation we had a deal.

He replied the next day and said the check was shipped out timely, he'd contact the mfr, and said we were still on, but that he was going to stop payment on the check. I indicated that if he did that, how would he arrange for me to be paid? I heard nothing back.

I emailed again today asking what was up, and (stupidly) finally checked his member status. Turns out it was canceled or withdrawn, and there is lots of bad feedback from other A'gon users, including one on 3/17 indicating he reneged on another deal. I followed up with an email that if I didn't get a check and the box by Mon. 4/8, I would consider that he reneged on the deal for failure to tender a timely payment.

My question: Is this a reasonable stance to take in the A'gon community? I don't want to be a hard-a**, but I want to complete a sale and get this speaker out of my study.
edesilva
So sorry to hear, but if he supposedly sent a check on 3/22 and you still haven’t received it, I seriously doubt it was ever sent. I know the mail is slow, as I am still waiting on something to arrive that I shipped to PR almost 2 weeks ago, but come on. Second question is why would he have stopped payment on the check? I think the negative feedback says it all. I say it’s time to move on.

Lastly, no it’s not a reasonable stance for the Agon community, just him. There are a lot of good and honest people here but unfortunately we sometimes get the A holes. Take this as a lesson hard learned and always check feedback. Good post, unfortunately at your expense, but hopefully we all can take heed to your bad experience.

Brian
There are alot of good people trading on this site.
Hang in there...

Dan
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Ed, you've hardly been a Hard A**? You have been a saint. If he has said he has stopped payment on the check and has not returned your e-mail the deal is over. Stopping payment after only 10 days was not necessary (mail is slow after 9/11). Neither of you is liable on the check if it is forged and that is the only way it can be cashed.

Sorry you were troubled. Seems to be a lot of threads lately about deals gone bad.

I remain,
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