Are we all destined to be "womenless" audiophiles?

Something to do with money better spent on yet more unnecessary upgrades to the bathroom, kitchen lounge etc, etc, etc.
My good lady professed a love of music when I met her & would happily listen - now it's a chore.
The sound doesn't come from the speakers - so why do they cost so much? I know I'm on the right track !
Hence she has matured and moved on and I'm still a juvenile idiot - thank the man she works away from home a lot and I get peace to enjoy my music - note not system - my music.
My wife is a very intelligent women who seems to relate to the visual - read any old shit on the tv.
Maybe she just wants to loose the stresses of the day and can't hack any more emotion? I would love to know - some of her female friends are the best advocates of my system, not because they are remotely impressed by new boxes, just because they love music and imo my system lets them hear closer to the real McCoy than most they have been exposed to
(I'm not bragging, we are talking $600 being a major investment for the family music system)
I only have have one mate who's wife is more into his system than he is - she does not care what it costs as long as it sounds better and has a better handle on the fundemntals than he has, only because she wants results !
Whew, hope her indoors doesn't see this

Bearotti, I wouldn't put alot of emphasis on finding a woman that is an audiophile, this would decrease your ability to find a soul mate drastically & as you mentioned, you only met one woman with this interest in the past three years. Just look for a person you can relate to on most everything else and the rest will fall into place. As for the sweet spot, I don't need a room full of distractions for critical listening. Don't need a vacuum cleaner going or a loud party otherwise music should be shared & enjoyed with friends.

I would guess women would not advertise their gender on this site mainly to avoid stupid comments from the men. There ios one system I know of posted by a woman, and there are comments about what does she look like, is she single, wow, a woman!, etc. I expect most women would find these comments a bit tedious. Also, gender should be irrelevant for the most part. While there are posts that deal with gender issues (such as this one), they are the exception.

Regarding trying to find an audiophile mate, I think this would be a bad idea. My mate should be interested in my interests, but should have other primary interests of her own, that I can participate in. For example, I would want her to be interested in my stereo, but not to the point that she wanted to call the shots. I want to make the final decisions. How many Audiogoners would you want to have to share and build a system with? You would be constantly fighting. Try finding someone who will bring something new to your life, maybe someone with a lot of friends. That way, you get a more interesting social life, she gets better music.

I'm very lucky to be with a girl who thinks tech is cool and that having a nice stereo is a marvelous indulgance.

A girl-friend who's been dating lately told me about a recent date. After things had gone well for a couple of dates she got back to one guy's place, they took of their shoes, and he plopped into a certain spot on the couch and flipped on his big-screen, surround-sound system. And she saw right away that he was in His Sweet Spot, that this was his thing -- sitting and watching and listening. Total turnoff for her. Within two minutes she was out of there and gone.

Get out and be with people. My audio rig sometimes makes beautiful sounds and nails me to the couch... until I realize what's going on and turn the thing off, call a friend, and we go hiking wiith our dogs or something. Audiophilia nervosa, a consuming quest to find the perfect audio rig and to try new things because the current stuff just isn't quite right, can be cured. Push through it until you get sick of it -- like eating too many peanut butter and jellly sandwiches and not wanting them anymore -- or just find other and better ways to spend your limited time. Audio is a patently passive hobby. Girls like guys who are enjoying life *actively*.

Sorry, this is the path you've chosen. Chin up!