The two remaining dealers in my area will check out a piece of demo equipment for a home audition. Screw that waiting for something that is being shipped. I'll take the local dealer first over mail order.
Aren't you then limited only to the brands that your local dealer sells? Numerous manufacturers sell direct: Wright, Welborne, Tyler, Zu, Moscode.... So I hear that you would rather not wait for their products to ship, but I'm confused as to what that has to do with paying re-stocking fees to hear a product that you cannot get locally?
Obviously, it costs the manufacturer money to box, ship, track, converse via e-mail, receive the product back into inventory, converse again via e-mail, and then refund the money if there is no sale. I'll never understand the expectation that they should do all of this for free. I don't work for free, so why should they?