Does someone’s opinion affect your opinion?

So I have a very nice turntable with a new MC cartridge which I liked and enjoyed…that is until someone said that the cartridge was very “piercing” and in his opinion almost unlistenable. Now I find I am not enjoying it as much. Two things to add, he is not anymore “golden ear” than me, and the brands are well known with good reviews. 
But now, I don’t enjoy it as much. I know I shouldn’t let it bother me, but it does and it has impacted my enjoyment.

So, has this happen to you and what did you do? 


If the answer to the OP's question is "NO," as many here affirm, then what are you doing on the Audiogon forum? We're sharing opinions about SQ here, are we not? And without even listening together, so that none of us has any way of norming or otherwise checking the "objective" validity of the opinion offered, other than its logical persuasiveness. If how your system sounds to YOU is the only thing that matters—and, in the last analysis, it is—then reading reviews or audio blogs is worse than a waste of time. Its distracting you from the real purpose of this hobby, and possibly planting false seeds of doubt where once there had been delight.

On the other hand, there are a lot of potential purchase choices to be made, and one would like to make them in an informed way. "Informed" here means: seek out a dealer with the item you want, and listen for yourself; borrow it (or purchase it with return privileges) so you can hear it in your own room before you commit. But to guide us in the direction of which components to seek out for a listen in the first place, reviews, seek the opinions of others, etc. So, YES: of course other people's opinions  can affect your own. We are social beings; we share this world, these human bodies; we can reasonably expect to learn from one another.

And then, there's the delight one takes in sharing one's own delight with friends. Žižek tells a joke about an ordinary guy who finds himself shipwrecked on a deserted island with Cindy Crawford (update at you whim). Eventually they wind up sleeping together. Afterwards, she asks him if he's happy. "There's just one more thing that would make me even happier," he replies. "Will you dress up like my best friend Bob? I can sketch a mustache on your lip...." She thinks this is odd and more than a bit kinky, but she complies. And then, nudging her with his elbow, the man says: "Hey Bob, you know what just happened to me? I just slept with Cindy Crawford!"

Most of the people on here have forgotten more than I'll ever know about audio gear.

I joined this group to get their learned opinions on  things important to me.

Those opinions effect my opinions greatly.

Taking all of this advice to heart, I make my own decisions and I decide if I like what I hear or not. Nobody else's opinion matters there.

I've learned a bit about cables, toe-in etc  here and I'm grateful for it.

This is just MY opinion, yours may vary. Nothing wrong with that at all.


People can definitely “poison the well” so to speak, whether intentionally or not. Then it’s just a question of agreeing or getting it out of your head. It can be a tough situation that time can help with. I wish I had a magic bullet for you but it’s happened to me and it can be hard to deal with. 

I think everyone reading this has the best sound ever.  

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