@ghasley +1
As a gross generalization, women like the music and personal relationships, and men like the gear and the science behind it.
Even though none of our systems is in a "dedicated" audiophile room, my wife has no interest in messing with the main system but she loves to play the garage/outdoor system, which is a simple streamer running Roon connected to a dac with integrated volume control - one remote for on/off and volume, and iPad for Roon, so it is easy to operate and she is confident using it.
She would never consider posting on Audiogon, which she would find tedious, boring, and a waste of time, but she is way more interested in her relationships with family and friends and sharing photos and stories, in person, on the phone, or on Facebook.