Thanks lemonhaze and to all that have responded here.
My wife and I finally heard the Totems with some upper end Naim separates and we couldn't hit the mute button fast enough! Not that they didn't sound good, they just weren't for us. Heard the Winds as well, same kind of "in your face" sound that just turned us off. Probably a lot to do with the venues. Room treatments would surely help as well.
Looking for a speaker that is a little more forgiving, so we have moved on from Totems for now.