I would broadly agree with everything you say, especially the point about some systems being too revealing for certain less than perfect recordings.
The problem wortj bearing in mind is that it's virtually impossible to find anything that comes close to satisfying so many differing criteria.
Therefore, whenever I hear music being reproduced, I tend to try to keep my evaluation as simple as possible by focussing on a few essential qualities as possible.
1 absence of sonic nasties - coarse treble, sibilance, indistinct bass, overhang etc
2 life-like timbre
3 dynamic range, transient speed and attack.
Anything else, imagery, disappearing speaker, articulate natural sounding treble etc would all just be extras.
Alas, my search for this mythic speaker goes on.