I’m rapt in attention to this. I have had this same situation for now two years.
I am music only, no theater. So, generally speaking I can hear the low buzz only from a foot away from my Revel speakers.
I have tried everything you have tried. Finally, after every iteration of plug in check, plug out check, new xlr, new rca, rinse and repeat I came to the following. If I take either one of my XLRs connecting between amp and preamp off at the back of the preamp or amp, the buzz goes away.
I keep my Kismet amp on 24-7, my Hegel preamp as well. When I’m not going to be listening to music during most of the week. (I mostly listen Thursday through Sunday) I detach one of the XLRs. no buzz.
So, my solution this far is to…live with it. I’m watching this thread for any thing I’m missing…..