@tooblue My sincere condolences.
I lost my son in 1994. Our song was Mona, by Quicksilver Messenger Service. I'd drive him to school every day, and start this song when we pulled out of the driveway. Mona has a very long instrumental lead in and we made a game of noting where we were when the vocal started. We could also tell if we were making good time, or bad time on the commute.
Every year on his birthday, I reenact the drive -- noting, of course, where the vocal started.
Losing a child certainly re-calibrates your definition of what a problem is. From that day forward, everything else seems pretty trivial by comparison.