Unfortunately that's how it is at a lot of dealers. I demo'd my DAC through the Roon platform. I didn't really like it's interface , but it allowed me to play way more tracks than I would have by bringing my material. 75 % of my listening is via Streamimg now anyway ...
A good dealer in my experience will let you listen to different sources if they know you aren't a tire kicker. And that's one thing I never am. If I visit your store, it's not to waste your time....and if I am a regular in your store it is the least you can do for me.
I went to Natural Sound in Framingham a few months ago looking for a turntable. They spun a few records for me. It was a nice demo. While I did not buy that Rega, I did go back a few weeks later and buy the Ortofon cartridge I listened to because I appreciated their time with me.