I feel exactly as you feel...
It is just that i make exception about "free jazz" with the like of genius Eric Dolphy for example... I dont like most free jazz...
Or for "cosmic jazz or interplanetary jazz" i make exception for Sun Ra , because there is an intent manifested in his music whch is not chaos or disharmony "per se"... And anyway this man is very interesting to know... I even bought his biography but i did not read it yet...
How many musicians wrote or played music to transform the world ? John Coltrane , Scriabin , Beethoven and Sun ra among few others had this Promethean idea to recreate humanity with music healing power... It takes a fabulous hubris to think to be able to do so and at the same time a total humility as a service to the greater ONE ... Incredible Coltrane, Scriabin, Beethoven and sun Ra and few others i cannot name at various level of hubris, service and devotion....
RE: "free Jazz at its best", the older I get, the less tolerance I have for disharmony, whether political or musical. Not saying this is necessarily a good thing, but it’s what’s true in my case. Perhaps, were the world less chaotic (or I more centered), I’d feel differently.