... To have a truly balanced component, it needs to have 2 completely identical circuits that are out of phase (full deferential) ...
That isn’t really correct and the guy who told you that doesn’t know how op-amps work.
OCD HiFi Guy also said true balanced components do not have RCA connectors, only XLR.
OCD HiFi guy is completely wrong. It isn’t the connector that establishes whether an amplifier is differentially balanced, it’s the circuitry. As an example, consider ARC’s series of Reference Phono preamps. Fully differentially balanced; inputs are RCAs only.