Friends hi-fi system not very good, what do you do or say?


So you're going over to someones home and they give you a tour and they have a hi-fi system in a room. And while visiting of course they turn it on for you not knowing that you have a very nice system in your home and you notice immediately it's just not very good.  But then you're used to the very in you're listening experiences. So what do you do when they ask you what you think?

Do you say sounds really good?

Do you make suggestions?

Do you feel a desperate need to tell them about your system?

Personally, I try not to mention any details about my system. If I'm driving around in a Lamborghini I would prefer to be invisible so I don't get stared at when I get out of my car. If they had a really nice system with interesting components I would probably mention a few of the things I have and then we could bond with our common interests.   Ideally, it would be cool to be in the presence of someone who knew a lot more than I did and a real learning opportunity.

Audio systems tend to be private affairs I guess.  I don't necessarily want to hang out with someone and listen to tunes. Those wonderful College days where it made a lot of sense are long gone.

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There is a phenomenon often experienced at audio shows: an expensive system sucks. Often simply dismissed as just a bad set up or a bad room. There is another possibility. Maybe your ears are tuned differently. Maybe you are the problem. Or rather until your ears adjust to a new system, it may sound off. Too dull, lifeless, boomy, thin and shrill. Sometimes an exact listening position, number of people in the room, or volume can have a huge effect on the overall listening experience. We all bring our owe biases. 

Two possibilities: His system sounds better than yours, so it's going to cost you some money to upgrade. Second possibility is yours is better than his, so say something nice like, "Well it has plenty of bass" or "Those trumpets really stand out", whatever suits the moment.

Thanks, @ozzy62 . @grislybutter - I'm off the sauce but you can have a drink as long as you don't touch the turntable. :)

best to all, the one thing these hobbies/pursuits do in my experience is bring people of varied backgrounds together --when I was involved in auto sports I met a lot of interesting people as well. 

I became a bit of a hermit during Covid and actually enjoyed the quiet time. Now I'm making an effort to get out more and engage with others. I learn a lot from others about life experience.