Doug, I liked the way you've said that, "Smothers Responsiveness". You analogy makes much logical sense to me about VTA, and Anti-Skate. Your words hit home, thank you for putting it into words than even I can understand.
So many disbelievers seem to speak about "fairies dancing on a head of a pin", and whatnot when speaking about all things "analog".
Your logical suggestions, and advice we have talked about in private.
My Benz Ruby 3 is finally starting to sound like a good Cartridge, it's not sounding "quite so broken" anymore, and sometime soon, I will try your suggestions of O-rings as well, lessening VTF, try to ignore the Digital VTF Scale (within reason), and let my ears be the final judge.
Makes mucho sense that excessive VTF, and Anti-Skate, even if ever so slight, may not serve much benefit.