I guess I'll jump in here with a different POV. So far, everyone seems to like chest thumping bass. Now, I admit in my younger years, that heart pounding bass was a top priority. However, now midrange clarity is my top priority. My speakers go down to about 25 hz, and I've never been a fan of seperate subwoofers while playing music. IMHO, the subs are great with HT, and speakers with integrated powered woofers can sound good with music. However, almost all systems I've heard with seperate subwoofers have the subwoofer turned up too loud. Yes, kick drums have a punch, but the seperate subwoofer allows you to emphasize that kick. If that's your 'thing' that's fine. Most seperate sub owners over-emphasize bass though. This can 'over-power' some midrange music, which can ruin the sound for me. There are a lot of recordings where they already have the EQ up on the bass, so I don't feel the need to raise it even more.
IMHO, if you have a seperate sub, you should not hear it.
Yes, it will add to the bass, but quietly, not calling attention to itself.
All that being said, if you enjoy the extra bass, turn the subwoofer up and don't worry what your other 'audiophile' friends think. :)
Cheers,
John