Second opinions — how have others (including non-audiophiles) helped you?


Have been building a system since December 2020, just about at a place where I can rest for a while. Very enjoyable process of researching, trying, listening. Last phase, room treatments, are just about done.

Along the way, it's been very useful to bring in other family members and some close friends to listen and tell me what they hear. Most are non-audiophiles. But what jumped out to them helped me recalibrate what I was attending to and listen anew.

I was really trying to listen critically — sometimes with checklists of qualities to pay attention to. But myopia is a hard problem to see around, if you will. In some very important moment (including speaker tryouts), they pointed to obvious problems which I was missing.

Here's one recent example. I had been trying to tame some bass peaks and loaded the front of the room up with panels. I got those peaks under control — tight bass, well placed imaging, natural sounding instruments. Then, I had my wife sit down, and in a couple of seconds she noticed that things sounded "constrained" and "missing air." I pulled a couple bass traps out of there and things opened up — "Ah, that's better," she said. As I sat to listen, she was right. Better reverb, more space, lightness.

That's just one example. My question to anyone wanting to share is how other people (including non-audiophiles) helped you improve your system.
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@boxer12  Enjoyed your response. I also enjoy tweaking, though since I'm still trying to discover the initial potential of my system, I feel like this is "pre-tweaking." It's like getting one's new car out on a straight rural highway and "seeing what she can do." Until one does that, one is still pre-tweaking, I reckon. Regarding "perfection traits" -- well, there's a way in which constant *worrying* is a psychiatric condition for audiophiles, and no one is better than audiophiles at confessing to it and claiming some shame. BUT, I love to play with the room, the stereo, etc. In a more forgiving spirit, the word for that is "tinkering," and it's a way of being involved with machines and systems that I have loved since I was a boy. I have no impulse to write it off as a "tic" of my personality. (Not that you said I should.)

@daj  Exactly my thought -- the notion that perception needs language to exist "adequately" (whatever that means) is, I think, a wrongful importation of the conceptual into something which is, if not completely pre-conceptual, at least pre-linguistic. And the stories people are telling here about non-audiophiles speaks volumes for their fully adequate perceptions *regardless* of their ability to express or describe them.
the notion that perception needs language to exist "adequately" (whatever that means) is, I think, a wrongful importation of the conceptual into something which is, if not completely pre-conceptual, at least pre-linguistic.
Reality is Alas! not a caricature...

Gut feeling and language are not dualities between which we must choose like between two competitive masters...

The integrality of ANY human experience ask for feeling and concept at the same times...

In acoustic experimewnts and experience it is evident like in human relations...



And the stories people are telling here about non-audiophiles speaks volumes for their fully adequate perceptions *regardless* of their ability to express or describe them.
The fact that my wife who think that my audio journey is an obsession is able to detect a positive change sometimes is absolutely not the proof that she could use her accurate feeling about sound for the sole guide.... She will not go very far with only his gut feeling.... Like most people walking blind already but pleased between different "upgrades" or "tweaks"....They called acoustical experience a "taste".... But acoustic is a science not a "taste"....To go passing a certain stage we need concepts to experiment, the ears opening itself to much more than to our own taste,but to acoustical new dimensions... 
No one helps, because I do not need help. Plus, no one would be interested anyhow......
@audioguy85  Good for you. Not me. I need help expanding what I notice, from time to time. Even the best writers need a second pair of eyes, but if you're self-sufficient and happy, that's all that matters.
My wife has little interest in my audio hobby, so I usually don’t get into the details when I am upgrading or installing a tweak. Last week the Isoacoustics isolation feet I ordered arrived while she was at work. I installed them immediately and gave them a listen.I did all this while she was at work, not to hide the fact that I was doing it, that is just how it worked out. A few days later we were playing cards with friends in the kitchen with the stereo playing in the background. One of her favorite songs started playing and she started listening to the music. She looked over at me and said, "Did you change something with the stereo?" I asked why she would ask that and she replied, "Something is different, it sounds much better tonight." She was hearing the same thing I heard when I was critical listening after installing the Gaias. They made a profound difference in the sound of my system!