Audiophile demographics?

tony1954:  You ask, "What are the built in things" that attract guys.  I could be wrong.  It could all be socialization, but some guys do seem to be innately attracted to girl parts.  Of course, it is impossible to do double blind studies to prove whether this attraction is genetically inherited, or socially learned.  Not so with audio!  We guys really do like our mechanical and electronic toys, many just to show off to seem more attractive, but for me, I really have deeply liked my stereo, sports cars, sport bikes, and SeaDoo's; althought it never hurt that these things attracted friends over, many with special benefits that they never shared with other guys.  Girls are taught too much that clothes and makeup (Ugh!) attract guys.  They constantly see it in the media, in stores, and from mentor/idols.  Many have little time to just while away at hobbies.   

@rcronk

Thanks. I'm just a tad younger but was an early Zeppelin fan from 69 when their 1st album came out. Same with Sabbath. These along with Iron Butterfly, Grand Funk, and other hard rock groups were staples of my music diet. My experience is that many men don't like metal,. much less, women. I found one woman who did out of all the people I've known. So it is unbelievable that the majority of women now like metal. I'll call BS on that. Now I'm sure the times are changing. And I'm glad to meet the female audiophiles and metal head bangers. But that doesn't change the fact that they are the exception, not the rule.
This is where stereotypes come in. They exist to make conversation easier, especially on subjective issues. They are general rules but not hard and fast. Of course there are exceptions. And there are nuances within the exceptions. But this is for academia, with pages of minutia not BB conversations. I suspect it is also generational wherein the younger have somehow learned that stereotypes are wrong instead of being exceptions. I've noticed my son often points out the exceptions as if they are the rule. IMO, the problem with this lack of exception and nuance is that it often leads to confusion and then division and is counterproductive. A'gon has been going down this path for a few yrs now which is why I and many don't post here as much as I did the earlier 20 yrs of being here. I suspect it has a large part to do with the total division of our country now too.
BTW, you made an interesting comment about listening. My own wife listens with me. She generally lays with one ear on the pillow and hearing with the other. She is satisfied. She says she is listening but I notice her asleep a lot. 

@rcronk
"And I am very friendly with many women. But you can watch them glaze over when you put some Captain Beefheart on the turntable."

If you are playing Captain Beefheart for a woman, then I understand why you are merely "friendly". Perhaps you should try Marvin Gaye next time.

My wife is atypical music lover.   She graduated Stoney Brook as a biology major.  Major sports fan and an athlete.   When I met her, she had a few hundred rock and pop LPs in excellent condition (now  shared).  However, she only loves the opera live and will not sit and watch an opera on video.  She allows me to select the music (too many rock concerts when she was young and now she hates excess highs such as flutes and piccolos).   She is very helpful in assessing changes in our main audio system (very sensitive to sound).   She bemoans the fact that I've made her into an audiophile in terms of assessing the sound quality instead of just listening to the music (I have no problem listening to 78s and imperfect recordings as long as the performance is worthy).  So, I'm fortunate to have a wife I can share music experiences with but who isn't interested at all in equipment (she does appreciate the custom music listening room which is 98% isolated from the video family room on the other side-total isolated in the video room).  75% of her sports viewing time is not shared as I prefer to listen to music.

She bemoans the fact that I've made her into an audiophile in terms of assessing the sound quality instead of just listening to the music

Why can't she/you do both? This idea of just listening to the equipment is what many accuse audiophiles of doing. I think this is erroneous. I can and do listen to my computer system with great enjoyment. It certainly doesn't compete with the main system. But I can enjoy the music from both. Now, I DO have different expectations of both systems. I'd be terribly disappointed if my main system sounded no better than the computer system. But I listened to music on a far lesser system for many years and thoroughly enjoyed it. The disappointment would not be in the music but the fact that I spent so much for so little. 
BTW, My wife listens & enjoys music with me. She  also and has a pretty good ear. She is much more sensitive to high freq than I. But most women are.  Still, its not a priority to her.