looking for advice on bookshelf speakers

For speakers, go with something from Harbeth or Spendor, paired with a tube integrated from Cayin or Jolida. Should be able to pull this off for $2,500.

Perhaps a receiver or amp with treble and bass controls might help?

Try a towel over the tweeter adding or subtracting layers first. You may not need new speakers.

I'm another who doesn't tolerate over emphasized high frequencies very well. The suggestion of finding a monitor with a soft dome tweeter is a starting point but not always the answer.
I recently purchased a pair of Dynaudio 1.3SEs which use a soft dome tweeter but I found I kept turning the volume down. They really bothered my ears. Oddly enough, I'm currently listening to the Dynaudio Focus 110s and seriously keep turning them up. Go figure.
What I have found is a good speaker makes me want to turn the volume up. Not because the speakers don't sound good at low volume, but because they sound so good I just want to hear more.
My favorite monitors are the Soliloquy 5.0s. They sound very right with no listener fatigue. Another speaker I enjoy is the Snell J-7. They are about the same size as your Paradigms. Extremely detailed and clean without being harsh on the ear. I believe their clean sound is what keeps them from sounding harsh.
BTW, I used to own the Studio 60v.2.

Thanks to everyone so far . Some great points. There is a Dynaudio retailer here in MN. I will be checking them out. Also will be looking into a tubed integrated as suggested.

Just before looking to see how this thread was coming along i had an idea about replacing the tweeters on the paradigms with the silk dome tweets and started a thread in the tech talk dept to see if that would be a possibility.

I really like the mids and bass response of the paradigms. A new pair of silk tweete are around $90 from partsexpress. That would be a huge money saver if they are compatible.