Hi Hilde45,
Just in case it’s not clear, you already have a DBA, which is basically 3 or more subs in a room, as long as they are asymmetrically placed in the room. Whether they are powered or passive is a matter of preference. As with everything there is pluses and minuses to both. If you want a 4 sub DBA in the future all you need to do is add a 4th powered sub to what you already have. They do not have to match.
Do your main speakers have a port? If they do, I would plug it, I would also set the low pass filters of the subs at the same frequency as the -6 db down point of your mains as a starting point. (Usually the lowest frequency the speaker is rated for) Though plugging the port should effectively raise the -6 db down point. If you have too much frequency overlap between the 3 sub drivers, the low frequency drivers of your mains and the ports of your mains and they are not in phase, you will get a tubby/muddy sound in the overlapping frequencies. Does your REL have a passive radiator? If it does it also could be causing some phasing issues with the Rythmiks. As an experiment I would also try to muffle that by placing something like a pillow under the cabinet and see if you hear a difference.
I do not understand why so many are against adding a crossover between a sub and the main speakers. I don’t think that too many would buy a main speaker that didn’t have a crossover between the low frequency driver and the mid/hi diver(s) but when it comes to adding subs, adding a crossover seems to be seen as the worst thing you could do. Crossovers can be passive or active, analog or digital, with pluses and minuses to each design. IME adding a crossover between subs and mains may have been the most substantial upgrade to my system in regards to sound quality, clarity and performance.