I'm confused - Different music...different speakers?

@smaarch1 Your ears can act as a tone control to a certain degree. If the bass is missing the ear will tilt things towards the treble. So if you add a sub (and have it placed properly so its audible at the listening position) you'll find the highs to be a bit calmer.

To get the sub to blend properly the trick is it should not have any output above 80Hz or it will attract attention to itself. In most rooms below that frequency the bass is entirely reverberant owing the wavelength being so long- at 80Hz its already 14 feet long, so within a couple of iterations its bouncing off every wall in the room. The lower the frequency the longer the waveform.

Yeah love those Totems but they are undersized to deliver everything with any kind of music. Think bigger! Klipsch Heritage line would be a good place to start with a good quality tube amp like yours.

OR adding a powered sub or two and integrated well is also a good option as suggested.

@smaarch1 I ran two custom 12" 500w Scanspeak subs with my former Totems. It was overkill for the Totems, not for my current speakers though. Possibly quality dual 9s, 10s, (faster) could be really nice with the Hawks.

With levels adjusted down I will say it helped the overall presentation and deferring to some of the comments above by @atmasphere yes, it helped it to sound "calmer" for sure. Another good recommendation for consideration.

One thing I noticed is over tightening the cartridge bolts can take the life out of rock music, what I don’t know is if this is specific to my arm and cartridge but it’s easy to try the cartridge bolts just tight enough to hold it in alignment and no more, listen for a bit and then progressively tighten them and listen to what it does.

I don’t suppose this is going to cure the problem but it might help.

If you’re using a mains conditioner try without.

if there’s a mains block experiment with plug order.

Make sure your cables aren’t tangled up,  power cables shouldn’t  touch signal cables and if neither touch the rack so much the better.

Might as well try the free tweaks first.

So it appears I'm looking at subwoofers. A friend has a REL to loan me and I'll give it a try.
I should qualify my complaint about the Totems. They have been very enjoyable for the last year I have owned them. 
My system has undergone a  lot of changes in this year and I'm tempted to pull the little B&W's out of the closet and have another listen
It seems the more I listen...the more I hear.