You could also get a test record that has increasing modulation levels (loudness) and you could note when you hear the onset of mis-tracking and how severe is that mis-tracking. Later, you can compare that result to what you hear when you are looking for signs of aging. The problem with a visual inspection by even a qualified dealer is that such inspection will not reveal when the suspension is going bad. The rubber ring around the cantilever that damps unwanted vibration can go bad even if the stylus is not played, so it is possible that the cartridge has gone bad long before wear even begins to show.
To me, listening remains the best way to determine wear.