@rvpiano
If you can delight in the many wonderful subtleties of a performance instead of listening for audio thrills you’ve turned back into a music lover. The behemoth that is your audio system tempts you mightily. But if you can somehow evade that temptation, you can fully enjoy music again.
First of all, your post seems to create a false dichotomy; that either one is a music lover, and ignores their gear, or, one only pays attention to how good their gear is at reproducing music, and doesn’t care about the actual music. As if, one can only be one type of listener, or the other.
But what about those of us, that for the vast majority of the time, only care about the music, and completely ignore the gear reproducing it. But at other times, maybe for a couple of hours a week, or every couple of weeks, all we do is pay attention to the gear, while making changes, and listening to only ’audiophile approved’ recordings, even if we don’t actually like the music, just so we can more easily hear the changes.
So, am I constantly switching between being an ’audiophile’ to music lover, and back again? Or is it more likely that I can hold 2 differing ways to approach audio in my mind, without being in internal conflict?
NO! I am always an audiophile AND a music lover.
For me, the music comes first, and is by far what is important to me. But that doesn’t rule out the fun I can have, from time to time, by just paying attention to the gear.