WHY IS THERE SO MUCH HATE FOR THE HIGH END GEAR ON AUDIO GEAR?

First and foremost is you are dealing with MEN. "My cables bigger than your cable". With many years of marriage to the right woman along with having wonderful daughters I became a human being. OP, you are dealing with the same problem women face on any topic, men are annoying and eventually resort to all caps. :>) 

It's the first deadly sin: Pride. "I'm better than you so how can you have anything better than I have?' Clearly you cannot, therefore do not. 

Greed:  "I want what's mine- even if you think it's yours" 

Lying: to themselves and others about what they are, want and have. With a hearty eff you thrown in for good measure.

Anger: See above Eff you. 

I don't diss high gear. I rather  spend some of that dough on the room. But of course that doesn't feed the pockets of an audio dealer.

I've been in this enjoyable hobby for nearly 50 years now and I've yet to tire of it because the hobby is about getting us closer to the music we love. 

Audio is very subjective. Lots of differing opinions on how much one should spend on a system.  The bottom line is that we all have different budgets and should trust our own ears above all else when it comes to putting an audio system together. 

Happy Holidays! 😊👍

I think I’m a bit confused. Who and where are these people that are “dissing” high end audio? I guess I don’t spend enough time here (and other forums) to see it . Are we talking about the internet at large? 
 

But I tell ya, you don’t have to look very far to find folks “dissing” other folks’  “mid-fi”. Double edged sword may apply here in this case.

I lust for “high end” gear as much as the next guy (although some may not admit it) but I buy what I can afford, modest as it is, and am thankful for it. I do love hearing other folks’ high end systems and also reading about there high end adventures.