I don’t think you can use the kAB calculator to determine the overload margins as this is specific to your phono pre. However, if I plug in your specific figures it yields an optimal gain of 50 db, and if you go to the chart at the very bottom, this is confirmed as optimal gain is specified as 43db minimum, and 53db maximum. And realize, if your phono pre is putting out 8V as suggested, you may be overdriveing your preamp or overloading the phono preamp. And yes, I think your math’s are correct and you would only have 10db of headroom before overload.
Rather than skiing uphill, and trying to make something work that inherently doesn’t, the best options might be to buy a phono pre with the correct gain settings for that cartridge, replace the cartridge with low output at the same time as buying the Accuphase, or using a 1:5 SUT with your current cartridge and running it into the MM setting of the Accuphase.